The art of intelligent relaxation

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A little while back while I was on one of my daily walk on the beach, I noticed a young lady sitting in a lounge portable chair reading a book.  It led me to notice how this person took the time to relax in an intelligent way.

The gist is most of the time we are always on the run, going from one activity to the other and rarely taking the time to slow down and enjoy ourselves.  That is also the reason some of us sleep like logs, while others turn and toss.

Relaxing Intelligently.  I was struck out how out of the myriad of young people on the beach, she was the only one reading a book.  Most others were either lying on their back, motionless lapping the sun, while others were indulging in headphones listening to music or today’s de facto activity, texting.  This young lady wasn’t doing this, she was reading a book and not just any book, she was reading a hard cover Japanese novel.

This was a simple reminder that we can not only take the time to relax, but use it wisely, while making it fun.

Defeating the asking by keeping the focus on lack

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This quote from the  Abraham-Hicks website nails it perfectly well, I feel.  We tend to defeat the purpose of our asking, no matter how strong the initial urge is by reverting to focusing on the lack.

“When you talk about what you want and why you want it, there’s usually less resistance within you than when you talk about what you want and how you’re going to get it. When you pose questions you don’t have answers for, like how, where, when, who, it sets up a contradictory vibration that slows everything down.

— Abraham”

Most of us sabotage our initial asking when going beyond the simple task of asking by demanding how, when and where.  It could simply be that the Universe is far bigger than our conception of it and needs to put a series of events into action in order to grant our wishes.  In other words, who are we to make demands on this great expanse of a Universe that knows all and everything?  It knows what needs to be done in order to grant your desires.

It’s a tough thing to accept to only desire something, and work for it without polluting the original idea with demands.  Then again, maybe that is part of surrendering.

Now back to entrepreneurs…

What natural disasters can teach us

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We lived in Japan and my wife lived an hour and a half north of Sendai, the epicenter of the worse of the Japanese recent tsunami.  We can learn a lot from the Japanese, mostly being in the present and prepared.

The gist is that living in Japan teaches you to be ready, at a moment’s notice.  My first experience of an earthquake was in Kyoto, a mild one at almost 5.  In less than 2 seconds, my Japanese colleagues were under tables and in safe places while my mind was trying to understand why an airplane would brake the sonic boom over a city.  I was originally born in a part of the world where quakes are fairly familiar and our next door city, Monaco is build with stringent quake rules, reinforced concrete.  You won’t wee houses made of wood.  Wood burns.

The thing that struck me most was the resilience and determination with the Japanese population.  While I enjoyed living in Kyoto, I was left puzzled as to why anyone would build their home and house their cherished heirlooms there, while knowing an earthquake could come along and wipe it all out of history.  But life goes on.  Countless of civilizations have come and gone and those who pick up the pieces to move on ultimately stay.

Resilience with preparedness goes a long way.  Strong with our worldly experiences with earthquakes and other calamities, we have two disaster boxes at each level our our place.  They have flashlights, hand wound radios and dollar bills.  The Japanese also teach us valuable lessons from the footage coming in.  There is no crying.  There is not time for that at the moment.  They are doing what needs to be done, look for survivors and then rebuild, leaving the emotions for a later date.

The last thing I take away from Japan is how serious the country is about disasters.  Most cities have PA systems ready to mobilize the population in minutes.  15 foot tall walls protect some villages from incoming tsunamis.  People follow procedures.  Flashback west coast of the U.S. and it’s a different story.  We feel smug, nonchalant about little earthquakes and are completely lackadaisical about natural disasters.  In Long Beach, where I reside, people feel protected by a tiny 5 foot breakwater build during WWII to guard ships against storms.  Knowing tsunami waves travel at up to 450 miles per hour speeds, a 5ft tall breakwater gives me little comfort.

99% of the time, doesn’t justify no common-sense.  While it’s true that 99% of the time the news exaggerates reporting of disasters, it is equally true that 99% of the time, geologists cannot predict how strong a tsunami hit will be.  It all depends on the sea floor.  What we can do is add a modicum of common sense by being ready with disaster kits and just knock on doors after quakes to see if neighbors are alright.

Even a 4.5 quake can be lethal if you stand below something heavy.  It just isn’t worth it looking cool if that 1% of the time could mean your life.

As always, my commitment is to raise awareness.  That’s what coaching does best.

West Nile Virus In Long Beach

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This just came in from Gerrie Schipske newsletter.

“…Residents near the 3600 block of Stearnlee may not have read recent news articles about the City’s Health Department finding mosquitoes positive for West Nile Virus on that street”

2nd Street, Belmont Shore, Another mom and Pop Store Closes

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The culprit us the usual, lost lease!

It’s sad to come back home from a wonderful weekend with friends and old cars to hear this, another shop is closing on our favorite street. 2nd Street is but a shadow of what it was years ago, a fun little street filled with charming mom and pop shops. Even though it still has a unique feel and charm, you can see the looming chain retail stores creeping up everywhere denaturing the charm of this quaint street. In the five years alone we have lived here, we witnessed the closing of many cute little boutiques.

The culprit is the same old usual, greedy leases driving small business out, those boutiques that make up 2nd Street’s unique charm and feel. What will happen when our street will be filled with The Gap and Starbucks? Certainly not the local neighborhood feel it had once and eventually traffic will go down.

I don’t know if I can say who it is yet, but I will post it here soon.

Local Newspaper Didn’t Cover Local Rugby Game

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I often wonder about the Press Telegram…

That newspaper spends more time talking about local cities than what is happening here in our own backyard. If that is not disappointing enough, the rest of the time it only covers shooting, killings and other gory issues. To the best of my knowledge, they didn’t even write about our local rugby team, and champions beating a tough team. You can read more  here.

But have no fear, my favorite local newspaper (and free!), The Grunion Gazette always does a better job at reporting what is happening. You can read more of that  here.

“The Belmont Shore Rugby Team is better known overseas than in its own back yard.

“Belmont Shore is well-known in international rugby circles because we have been so dominant in the (USA Rugby Super) league,” said Johnnie Cox, the team coach. “When we had the Rugby World Cup last year, the second biggest sporting event in the world behind the soccer World Cup, we had six players from Belmont Shore on the (USA) national team.

“You wouldn’t know who they are, but they are well-known in rugby circles.”

Come on Press Telegram, how about ramping up those subscriptions by actually covering what is happening in our city?

Cafe La Strada Rocks On 2nd Street!

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What a great pizza!

We went out to Cafe La Strada on Friday night and forgot how great this place is. Friendly, warm, inviting, great staff and the food was simply great. Virginia had some fish and pasta dish and I had a pizza… and what a pizza. It was all good. A great local place on 2nd street. One of the few last nice ones.

It’s good to help our local shops survive the greed that is driving landlords to raise rents more than the economy can sustain and having our local shops replaced by faceless chain shops. :)

Car “For Sale” Rules, Long Beach

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If Rae Gabelich and Val Lerch have their ways, pretty soon you will need to have a business license to sale your car in Long Beach using a “For Sale” sign.

Come again? Yes, I read this right. I usually like both council members for their active involvement in our local environment but I couldn’t help and stop at the words they used to describe the “For Sale” signs: “can be traffic hazards, and are often blight in the neighborhood when several cars are lined up for sale.”

I guess it proves to show you can never argue tastes. Blight, though, isn’t that a little too strong? Maybe I haven’t seen the neighborhood where cars line up to be sold. Sure, Livingston and 2nd Street have their share of one or two cars with for sale sign, but I hardly consider it a blight and even less a traffic hazard.

I guess the real question is, is Long Beach looking for yet another way to make money on people trying to sale their cars? I am sure some make a business out of it. But since I did hear the city is paying someone close to $40,000 a year to drive around to make sure people don’t have more than two yard sales a year, couldn’t that person do the same with cars and for sale signs?

I feel, instead of restricting people to do things, why not just regulate those who abuse and not penalize those who don’t? Or maybe open up one of those desperately empty and ill frequented parking lots near Granada at the beach for people wanting to sale their cars for a modest fee? It’s something to think about.

Living By The Way, Nice and Long Beach

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Beach life by the sea…

A friend of ours just came back from a cruise on the Mediterranean. It was interesting to hear her impressions. I couldn’t understand it at first.

She was saying how amazing it was that people from the Mediterranean sea live by the sea, with the sea, go to their beaches, go on their boats and just plain old take advantage of the sea. I couldn’t understand why she was saying that or what drew her attention. In my mind, it is the same here… until… I remembered.

Living in Nice, France, I recall swimming in the sea almost every day. I recall never being afraid of pollution and the only reason we have to have a shower after swimming was because of the high salt content of the sea. I remember working until 5 and go swimming after with friends, then climb to my home overlooking the bay.

Come to think of it, we never do this here. We are on the Ocean but don’t swim in it. If we do, we must drive away from our city to neighboring ones. We have long huge beaches but they are so dirty that only a small fraction are clean enough to enjoy. I never swim either. After two years of hearing how dirty and polluted the water is, I don’t chance it. It’s taken the fun out of it.

Virginia is from Savannah, Georgia. They also enjoy their water ways. In fact, every time we go there, we are on a boat going to islands or restaurants, swimming and braving the swarm of gnats.

It’s sad to be one of the most beautiful cost in the work and not being able to enjoy its water. It’s sad our city spends more time dreaming about being a great city and spends the rest of their meetings squabbling about ugly projects supposed to build our reputation. I heard Long Beach was under the illusion it would be the next Manhattan!?!?! That’s not my visions. I loived there and it was not pretty. Interesting, but not pretty.

My vision of Long Beach, if it is to succeed and reach that lofty goal of drawing businesses and tourists is that the beaches become clean again. Clean enough to swim. This is after all what we are famous for, in Long Beach. Then, let’s focus on making it easy for businesses to work here. I know the council members are working on it and the latest meetings show improvements. Still some members need to realign their focus with their constituents.

I would just love to enjoy clean beaches and clean water with a healthy, striving city.

Mansionization of Long Beach, Gaining Momentum

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The mansionizations of Long Beach is gathering more and more momentum. After seeing an article on the LA Times not too long ago and finding out that city was also growing concerned, we have have read in the local publication about this phenomena.

Mansionzation or the Mc Mansion effect is described as the replacement of old traditional bungalows and building huge in an otherwise quaint neighborhood.

It’s a tough one to call. As a lover of traditional architecture and especially Spanish Colonial Revival, it is sad to see these beautiful little gems torn down. As an owner, I would also prize space. However, as an owner, would I want to shove a big house and cast shadows on my new neighbors? And even then, my hard bought lot is my own. It is freedom of choice versus mutual respect. But where is the fine line?

In the case of flipper investors, the verdict is slightly different. It’s pretty unanimous that they will not live there, so tearing down homes and upsetting neighbors is the least of their worries. However, if you are going to buy one of these homes, make sure you talk to the neighbors and get a feel for the community.

The Press Telegram wrote about it not too long ago  here. As with anything in life, nothing rests, everything changes. Should the zoning laws also change? Should the laws take into account how bigs homes should be? Should we preserve our heritage and architectural patrimony? Where do we stand on these issues?

The city is asking for feedback on the issue to be included in a report the Housing and Neighborhood Committee will present to the City Council scheduled for Aug. 21, according to Suzanne Frick, the city’s director of Planning and Building. Current rules and regulations allow for a point .6 proportion of a home to its lot, second stories cannot be higher than 20 foot, and homes may not cover more than 40 to 50% of the lot. Obviously, many homes do and that is what has many residents concerned. Once the homes have been built and the variances not been fully given, who will ask to tear down a multi-thousand dollar home?

It’s a tough call but something will have to be done if we want to keep the quaint feel of our city. Oh, and  here is survey from the city.