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Setting A Healthy Relationship With Facebook

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As you can guess, having been slandered on Facebook has made me think a lot about the experience on this website.

For the positive aspects Facebook has, catching up with old friends, rekindling lost friendships and keeping in touch with people who are far away, pretty much anyone can start writing anything without you knowing.  I recently witnessed two friends, one a democrat, the other a republican, duking it out under my wall.  As fiercely independent as I am, I feel this has no place on my territory.

The last experience is rather disturbing.  Someone has been slandering me and the only reason I became aware of it was when another person decided to send me a private email about it.  In other words, all of this is happening without me knowing.

This is one of the dark, negative aspects of Facebook.  Anonymity is easy to hide behind when someone decides to take a stab at you.

From now on, I will treat the website in the following way.  Go to it once a week, check out only the friends who are too far away call and see physically.  Since I want my profile to be seen and open, I have nothing to hide, I won’t limit access, but others might want to think about that in order to avoid what I am experiencing.

Finally, it worries me what the new generations are experiencing with these types of “social networks”.  Sitting behind a chair, clicking, befriending people without seeing them in real-life just isn’t very real… or maybe it is an alternate reality.  Having said this, are they developing social skills?  It is arguable that while they are becoming proficient typists and clickers, their face-to-face social skills are not improving, nor are their speech patterns evolving.

Maybe this is a sign of a new generation or maybe I’m just lucky enough to know two generations, one that speaks and another that writes…

As to the person who wrote this?  It was easy to discover.  I have turned over the case to the police and a lawyer.  The rest?  I wish her light, plenty of Light…

What To Do When People Slander You

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There is nothing more frustrating than someone hiding in the ether the Internet is and slanders you.

Yesterday, I received a Facebook email I thought was a bad joke at first.  This person I have never met accuses me of doing things that just cannot happen.  While that particular account could have been hacked, it is nonetheless a disturbing event.  So the reactions are as follows: make a huge stink, alert everyone and go into defense mode, or think things through and calm down?

If the latter does not come naturally for me, it is what I did.  I decided to talk a few deep breaths, then lit a few candles and burned incense.  I started to meditate and asked questions.  While the answers weren’t revelations, they were soothing and felt calm deep within the peace inside.  I decided to tackle the problem logically.  I documented everything, filed an abuse report, looked the person online and in Facebook and finally sent emails to her friends to clarify who she is.

It isn’t easy dealing with such a negative thing, especially when you know it isn’t true but sometimes we are called to deal with absurd situations.  We must take adversity in stride, knowing we are right and either someone is having sick fun, or just is deranged.  One step at a time…

In the meantime, my feelings toward Facebook don’t change.  It isn’t a great tool.  You end up wasting more time than it is worth.  If Facebook is great are rekindling old friendships, that is all I can say about it.  It makes us lazy, accept friendships at the push of a button instead of going out there and meeting people in real life…