What natural disasters can teach us

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We lived in Japan and my wife lived an hour and a half north of Sendai, the epicenter of the worse of the Japanese recent tsunami.  We can learn a lot from the Japanese, mostly being in the present and prepared.

The gist is that living in Japan teaches you to be ready, at a moment’s notice.  My first experience of an earthquake was in Kyoto, a mild one at almost 5.  In less than 2 seconds, my Japanese colleagues were under tables and in safe places while my mind was trying to understand why an airplane would brake the sonic boom over a city.  I was originally born in a part of the world where quakes are fairly familiar and our next door city, Monaco is build with stringent quake rules, reinforced concrete.  You won’t wee houses made of wood.  Wood burns.

The thing that struck me most was the resilience and determination with the Japanese population.  While I enjoyed living in Kyoto, I was left puzzled as to why anyone would build their home and house their cherished heirlooms there, while knowing an earthquake could come along and wipe it all out of history.  But life goes on.  Countless of civilizations have come and gone and those who pick up the pieces to move on ultimately stay.

Resilience with preparedness goes a long way.  Strong with our worldly experiences with earthquakes and other calamities, we have two disaster boxes at each level our our place.  They have flashlights, hand wound radios and dollar bills.  The Japanese also teach us valuable lessons from the footage coming in.  There is no crying.  There is not time for that at the moment.  They are doing what needs to be done, look for survivors and then rebuild, leaving the emotions for a later date.

The last thing I take away from Japan is how serious the country is about disasters.  Most cities have PA systems ready to mobilize the population in minutes.  15 foot tall walls protect some villages from incoming tsunamis.  People follow procedures.  Flashback west coast of the U.S. and it’s a different story.  We feel smug, nonchalant about little earthquakes and are completely lackadaisical about natural disasters.  In Long Beach, where I reside, people feel protected by a tiny 5 foot breakwater build during WWII to guard ships against storms.  Knowing tsunami waves travel at up to 450 miles per hour speeds, a 5ft tall breakwater gives me little comfort.

99% of the time, doesn’t justify no common-sense.  While it’s true that 99% of the time the news exaggerates reporting of disasters, it is equally true that 99% of the time, geologists cannot predict how strong a tsunami hit will be.  It all depends on the sea floor.  What we can do is add a modicum of common sense by being ready with disaster kits and just knock on doors after quakes to see if neighbors are alright.

Even a 4.5 quake can be lethal if you stand below something heavy.  It just isn’t worth it looking cool if that 1% of the time could mean your life.

As always, my commitment is to raise awareness.  That’s what coaching does best.

Ego, Nothing Good For An Already perfect Society

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A great quote from David R. Hawkins:

“With humility comes the willingness to stop trying to control or change other people or life situations or events ostensibly ‘for their own good’. To be a committed spiritual seeker, it is necessary to relinquish the desire to be ‘right’ or of imaginary value to society. In fact, nobody’s ego or belief systems are of any value to society at all. The world is neither good nor bad nor defective, nor is it in need of help or modification because its appearance is only a projection of one’s own mind. No such world exists.”

And is this the truth, more than ever?

What is your motivation?

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Sometimes I get people who simply don't know what to do.

Sometimes you know you want to change, you feel the urge to do so but don't know what, how, where and when.  So the best place to start is to ask yourself what is your motivation to change?

To most, the desire to change comes from a certain level of discomfort, pain and dissatisfaction.  If left unchecked, these negative feelings can be used as excuses for addictions, whether drugs, alcohol, sex or other.  The problem with that is they only bury the feeling for a little while until the inevitable is faced.  Once sobered up from the excesses, the same feelings are back and most often than not, amplified until dealt with.

Eventually we all have to face the invisible enemy.  That distorted Ego attached to chimeras and fleeting illusions.  Eventually, we come to embrace our true natures and treat the ego as what it is, a tool that needs no killing but to be subdued.

So what does all of this have to do with motivation?  Simply enough, you need to know what your motivation is.  If you have a hard time getting to it, check to see if the desire comes from the ego or it is a nobler one.  The success of any changes is always based on how sturdy the foundation of your motivations are.  The purer, the better.

How To Spot The Ego Taking Over

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Most people feel bothered when they don't act in integrity.  That feeling is not a pleasant one and you feel out of balance.  Mostly, it happens when the ego takes over and you lost control.  So what can you do to spot the early signs and place trigger points to remind you to not let it run lose?

There are five obvious aspects of an ego gone wild: anger, hatred, judgment, control and
pride, amongst the biggest ones.  These are the five ways our ego can
manifest when we forget about it and let it lose with unpleasant results.  While we all judge, get angry at times and feel an urge to control, most of these things can be controlled with simple awareness. 

Watch yourself more often.  We spend the first five years of our lives controlling our body for better handling of objects and movement but never did the same with our minds.  By being mindful, aware of our moods, we can spot when the ego spins out of control. 

The ego isn't a bad thing.  In fact, we need one to function in this society but it needs to be tamed in order to pay well with others while being used as what it should be, a tool to represent the cumulative sum of your experiences.

How To Outwit The Ego

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Most of us struggle keeping the monkey mind in check.  The monkey mind?  You know, the other expression for ego.  So how do you keep the ego from deceiving you?

The obvious answer is to keep your awareness around where and how your thoughts arise.  Here is a clue.  99% of the time, your reaction is based on the ego.  The ego can be a great tool if used wisely, but left to its own device will serve as a powerful reminder that little awareness leads to a life of little control and worse yet, not knowing yourself.

So take a break before reacting.  Remember to take a deep breath before you answer or react and you will see that most of the time, the ego was there to answer for you and not let you truly be who you are.

Simple, no?