Coaching Businesses and Life, a view from Long Beach

Closing the blog

After a few years of maintaining this blog and trying to recoup a mistake Typepad had made, I never fully regain the readership I had years ago.

I will bring down this blog this week.  I might start another one soon again, based entirely on coaching and spirituality, since these are the two topics I could write non-stop :)

I will also slow down on the electric car blogs and the Examiner.  As much as it is, electric cars are on their way and people need more coaching than EVs.

Thank you for reading this and it is my sincere hope this has touched you in some way, kindling the desire to better yourself.  Together, we can do almost anything we set our heart and minds on.

Glimpse Of The True Person

Have you ever wonder as you look at people how so many of us hide behind our characters?

I was talking to this expert doctor and was wondering about his composure.  His exterior self was well crafted, presented his expertise, not bonding with the patient and keeping a "healthy" distance.  That one quest I always to take on.  How long does it take for you and I to bond?  How many things must I say to reach you, to make you see the real person in me and see the real person in you?

It usually happens after a while, once you have dragged them out of their professional persona.  It is usually a wonderful moment where the inside human being comes out and there is a bond for a little while.  It is a safe a nurturing moment where someone feels it is OK to come out with their deeper person.  You are offering them a relaxing moment in their busy professional life.

Why is this important?  In this hectic life we live, it is easy to get lost in our professional life, slipping away the moments to intimately getting to know ourselves and being true to our inner person.  I know I always enjoy a person who is out there, themselves in their professional lives.  It shows a certain level of thinking and working on their selves.

While We Talk, Things Happen

I just read something that should make us all think, or more to the point take action.

Now before I go on, taking action does not necessarily mean to go out on the streets and demonstrate but often time more a state of mind or shift in attitude.  I read somewhere that: "each year 5,000,000 people will lose their medical insurance, over 900,000 will go bankrupt for medically-related reasons, and 45,000 people will die because of lack of health insurance."

Those are incredibly high numbers for a country like ours that boasts terms such as: "leader of the free world", the best, etc.  What is even sadder is the endless debates around what is happening and what to do.  While one camp wants to do one thing, the other disagrees and stops the process.  If talking and thinking is very important, we also need to act.  As I have said above, acting does not necessarily mean something physical and can be as powerful as a mind shift, something you can carry into your being.

The bottom line is that knowing people live in deplorable condition in our society while we live in fair comfort should be dis-comfort enough for us.  In light of this, it is hard to look at politicians and what they say, or even worse believe one man can change an entire system.  In a society as ours where we live well, knowing we have people who live below the international poverty level (according to the UN), have a very poor literary on an international level and the above mentioned numbers, should be enough to make us stop talking and giving away our power, and to once again demand more from those elected officials.  And if they cannot do it, they should take a pay cut or move away to let a new generation have a shot at it.  Anything is better than stagnation.

In the end, we need to start doing now.  The time for talking has long past, and it starts with taking a stance.

Getting in touch with the past and healing

Here is a fun exercise that takes as little or as much time as you are willing to give and has great rewards.

A while back, about 15 years ago, I started getting in touch with old friends.  The reason was because I felt I had done wrong and needed to make amends.

Turned out that most had forgotten and forgiven.  What it did for me was two things.  It was a relief to see they had forgotten/forgiven me.  But the other was that I had made a bigger deal then they.  In the end, my perception of things wasn't the same as these people I used to know.  It was a relief.

Conclusion?  Sometimes we make a bigger deal than what really happens.  In the end, it is only you and your conscience.