There is probably nothing harder, more discouraging than the way we perceive how to carry out New Year’s Resolutions.
Last year I wrote about how many choose copious amounts of resolution and apply a ruthless military strategy keeping them, eventually burning themselves out. I also suggested a very simple and effective way to choose only a few, group them into a few category and boil them down to 3, no more. After all, it’s simpler to keep 3 resolution than the national average of 10.
Now that we know this, we must also look at the other irritating factor, that of burning out. Usually by the end of January, we realize we took on too many and have dropped a few, if not all. The good is… we can pick up new resolutions at any time and don’t have to wait for year’s end!
In my case, I’m witnessing an interesting twist. My resolutions boiled down to the fact I am a thrill seeker, always looking for the next best thing, a typical 7 according to the Enneagram. What I need to do is be more in the present. “Being more in the present” means different things to different people and in my case, it simply means being more aware and enjoying this moment. This also leads me to better meditation time.
What I didn’t take into consideration is that being in the moment means different things at different points of our lives. For instance, being in the moment meant slowing down in the beginning of January for me. It now means to not get caught up in the bubbling amount of projects I am currently working on.
Resolutions are simple if you make them simple and keep a very flexible mind around. Dropping them is no sign of failure, just that it wasn’t the right one or the approach was off. By dropping one, we often consider it to be a negative thing but that same negative experience is what tells us if we are on the right track or not. If we are not, then nothing stops us from dropping it and choosing another, or tweaking it.
So I’m adding “being more flexible” to my resolutions