Am I the right person for you?

One of the toughest questions a coach, or anyone else for that matter of fact has to ask is whether or not they are the right person to help in any given situation.

The gist is we can easily delude ourselves thinking we know best, even if it comes from a good place. But what do we know best? Who knows this best? Best for ourselves, others, the world? What is the measure? Sometimes it also feels certain professionals find it easy to wing it as long as they get paid or they give back something of equal value. But in the end, an honest hard cold look at whether or not you are the right person for the situation pays out in the long run. Am I going on a limb here?

Often times, when talking to a potential new partner we eagerly want to help and feel know what’s best. However, it pays to stop and ask whether we are the right person for them. As a Coach, I am aware that if I approach the situation out of fear, lack or any other negative underlying emotion, then I know I’m off center and will not be able to make the right choice, nor find the one best suited. By being centered and without personal agenda, save for their highest well being, you can then start to think about how you can be of help. I know this sounds a little out there and even veiled with Buddhist principles but I’ve found that by being aware of myself, seeing my motives and then working for the highest benefits of all, situations work out for the best and especially become easy to maneuver through.

So next time someone comes to you for help, ask yourself if you are the right person by looking at your motivation. Why are you saying yes… or no.