Monthly Archives: July 2008

Eveything I Do Fits Me

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It’s true, everything I do is a reflection of who I am.

I wake up and I fix Virginia’s breakfast.  I like to see her off to work with the lunch I fix.  I do it gladly.  Then I go outside read a book on ancient texts with my Bose sound canceling headsets.  It reflects the quietness that I achieved in my mind and its soothes the thirst I have for that ancient, long forgotten knowledge.  Then I check email, get rid of old ones, answer new ones and set my day in a good working order.  It gives me a sense of out with the old, in with the new.  Then I browse my favorite blogs and news media source for information.  I use it for this blog or my new ElectricNick.com blog.  It’s fun, it makes me think and then I get to write about it.

After this, clients call in.  It’s my time away from me.  I am there for them, and we work on whatever they want to work on that day.  It feels good to remove yourself from yourself, or not to get in my way.  After this, I break for lunch and head out to the beach.  I have this perfect spot where I go and watch the waves wash up on the shore.  The perpetual rhythm is inspiring and the shades of deep blue to turquoise to aquamarine make me feel very mellow and peaceful.  Then I meditate.  I open up to that-which-is-the-source of everything I am conscious of.  It feels good.  I feel as huge as the Universe and as tranquil as the sea.  Then I lie down and sleep for ten minutes.

After that it’s time for Polly’s.  There I know I will get good coffee or tea and be in a neighborhood cafe that reflects me and my neighborhood with a wide variety of people, young, old, cool, un-hip, they’re all here.  I get a lot of work done there with my headsets.  I write 4 to 6 posts, review the 12 week course for MyPrivateCoach.  I get to express myself.  When I’m done with working a few hours straight, I go the Belmont Athletic Club.  And there too, it’s a local thing.  It fits me well also.  I work out and finally go home.  I cook for us and we set into the night.  Virginia works a little bit and I watch, what else but a Star Trek episode I borrowed from a friend?

Why am I writing this?  Because I am in integrity.  I live the life that reflects who I am.  I tap my source and every day I wake aligned to it.  How did I do it?  OK, years of research and a few coaches to get me to transition.  Ah, the wonders of being aligned within your core.

Now That You Know Who You Are, How Do You Get There

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Now that you know who you are, what you are, and your deep rooted core fundamentals, how do you move forward?

Keeping in line with the idea to get outside help to kick your life and business career up a notch, it’s time to design some custom tailored strategy for you.  Since you have a greater awareness around the “who” in you, and by now you know exactly what your ideal income position is, you are closer to getting that position than ever before.  OK, so no more trial & error method, you can now focus on moving to where you need to be in order to accept what you duly desire. 

By now your enthusiasm should be percolating which naturally attracts opportunities to you.   Knowing what you love and doing what you love makes you an out of contest expert in your field.  After all, we excel at what we love doing best.  But there are other by-products of being enthusiastic and attracting this good fortune, you will become far more desirable to potential customers, potential bosses and business partners.  Opportunities will seek you, because you will make them look and feel good as well as make you look naturally desirable.

This is the last part in attracting success to you by knowing what you like, and don’t but also exuding that enthusiasm energy which can’t help but attract opportunities to you.  This is a concrete working example on how to apply the all over-famed, over-simplified and over-talked Law Of Attraction.  Anyone interested in reading more on ancient and original text that the Law of Attraction were derived from can go to this link.  And for the rest, just contact me, we can talk about this for a while.

Kick Your Business Up A Notch

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If you want to boost your horizons and go that extra step, you need to have someone to ask you those questions that get you to open up and reveal things you have not revealed to anyone before, including yourself. 

You could use that someone to bounce ideas off of and reflect those new findings back to you in order to let you discover the inner working of what makes you get up and go day after day.  Try it on safely before you go out into the world.  Give yourself that extra chance, that extra leeway.  I is important to understand your passions, your often-time self-imposed obstacles, the things you like to do as well as those you don’t like, your beliefs and values, your spirituality, your core values, your talents, your priorities, etc.   Once you understand this you are better equipped to use any of them as strength to get you to where you want to go and leave those that won’t serve you behind.

We live in a time and place where small businesses and entrepreneurs can custom build their ideal income position with a little help from outside.  It’s all about return on investments.  How much are you willing to invest on yourself? 

It wasn’t easy for me after years of business failures to invest in a coach.  It was tough but what I got out of it was exponentially worth the sum invested.  And look where I am now.  I am fulfilled and for the first time in my life I can truly say I love what I do.  How many people can claim that?  My coaches have been invaluable assets especially when it came to designing and custom building my ideal profession that fulfills my passions and keeps in line with my priorities, spirituality and the “who I am” inside.

Do You Have To Be Unhappy At Work?

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Most people use trial and error going through life.  Whether it is choosing a career, a car, a new TV, a service from providers, few actually research in depth and seek help.

This is especially true for choosing a work position.  People evaluate possible choice, which gives a false sense of power, because one feels in control while not fully knowing what the positions entail.  This is mostly done through guessing what the position might like.  the second problem is  selecting a position to give it a try.  What happens next is an continuous adjustment to the position and company culture to the point of going against their own motivations and aspirations.  Since there was no clear understanding about the position and company culture, people have to adjust, sometimes losing their uniqueness in the process.

Eventually they become bored, disillusioned, unhappy, nonproductive, with all that entails.  So what happens next?  You guessed, people move on to change positions and look for better working conditions elsewhere.  What’s maddening about this process and a total time waster is that most people still continue to use the same trial and error process.

What would be helpful then?  Wouldn’t it be great to have a neutral, third-party person to help you stretch you thinking, look at different scenarios, alternatives and go dig deep inside to find out what it is you really want?  Is there a name for such a person?  Why, I believe there is.  They are called business coaches.  Oh, yeah, and I have a great time working with them.

The Way We Do Business

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I was listening to how many journalists were resentful about what was happening at the Times.

It was interesting to hear their point of view.  After all, we’ve seen a profession fall from a honest impartial news information to one based on sensationalism.  The ever tightening up of resource and squeezing out more profit have wreaked havoc on newspaper industry to the point of endangering their very survival.  And more so to the point, who reads newspapers anymore when you can go online and get news from better sources such as the BBC or specific blogs?  Don’t agree with that?  Have a look around.

The problem I feel is in the way we feel businesses should be run. Not too long ago, the French celebrated their famed Bastille Day.  Bastille day was the beheading of the royal family, thus ending the “royal oppression” replacing it with a democracy.  Hum, what happened?  Their is such a disconnect in the business world from upper management to the consumers.  Do companies still understand what people really want?  When you get paid millions of dollars, are rarely held accountable and the the worse thing that can happen to you after you sink a company is a huge severance pay package and move on to another company, where is the fire, where is the business motivation?  Welcome to wanting more and more money with less and less results.  Where is the professional motivation short of the financial rewards?  And consumers pay for that?  Strange.

Newspapers have dwindled in terms of quality and numbers.  As big corporations have bought them, streamlined them, unified them, and squeezed to much from too little of a staff, the quality was eventually felt.  There are only a few companies that hold the myriad of newspapers out there.  How do you think this effects the news?

It was sad hearing these journalists feel desperate within the current state of the news media.  Their is a lot of coaching to be done there.  There is a lot of value re-evaluation to be worked through, reconsidering how much top management should be paid, especially in light of how much the common Joe makes exponentially less.  How can any of them relate?  These are interesting times we are living and we are witnessing a definite shift here.  I am sure there will be not as wide a gap in salaries in the next decade as what we are seeing today.  We’ve pushed a system too far and it is imploding.

Coaching Failure

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I wrote a while back about failure and how important it is to turn it into success.

I went through 4 to 5 years of business failures.  Not just one, but many.  It was a first for me, I never experienced it before.  Everything I had started turned out to be successful.  I started businesses on my own and brought them to great working levels, then moved on.  I don’t know what happened but something stomped me.  Maybe it was the fact I wanted to do something constructive for life.  I wanted to do something meaningful and not just setup computer systems and make corporate American richer than it already is.  I wanted to “help” people.  I had seen too many people working hours on end and staying away from their families.  I just wasn’t satisfied fixing Microsoft known problems anymore.

One of my first friends/clients was also an entrepreneur.  Like me, he had started businesses and like me he had failed.  But what he said completely transformed me.  The topic got on failure and fear of failure.  I told him about my experience and something happened.  He opened up.  He told me had I not gone through these failures I would have never been able to coach him effectively.  Knowing the pains and self doubts caused by business failures, I understand where my clients are and can ask them better questions around who they really are and how to get there.

Failure is a powerful success tool!  I certainly don’t coach business failure, but I coach having experienced it.  This comes in very handy because my entrepreneur clients have had at one point some sort of business failure. ; That’s when they are ripe to kick into to that 6th gear and really reach for that success they’ve been craving for.  In fact, most of my clients are successful entrepreneurs who want to kick up the extra notch.

To Make Significant Lasting Changes

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There is no miracle cure.  There is no one cure fit all.  Beware of people who well you “You will cured of all ailments when you come to me!”.  That might be true, only and only IF you do the work.  Remember, someone may point in a direction, but you do the walking.

However, greater awareness opens the door.  The more awareness we have, the easier it is to maneuver life’s chaotic waters.  The greater awareness we have about ourselves, the easier it is to use our strengths to achieve our goals and understand our weakness to avoid obvious mistakes.  We make changes every day.  Given the rapid rate of change in every aspect of modern life, business and technology, even personal life, you must think quickly and be able to make changes sometimes on a dime.  So how does a coach get you to make fundamental and permanent changes in your personal and professional life?

You start with the obvious.  Who are you?  In regards to your life, society and what you would like to do, who are you?  Having that greater understanding of yourself, it becomes easier to see what you are good at and what is weighing you down.

Why Some Guys Are Great At Blowing It Up With Girls!

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Sometimes I wonder why so many girls are so iffy when guys approach them.

Then, sometimes when I watch guys approach them in a doofus way, well, it becomes obvious why they are so leery.  And then I heard this recording.

Whether or not it is an actual recording is irrelevant.  You might recognize some parts of you in what that guys says when you were at a very low point of your life when your self-esteem was rock bottom.

I cringed when I heard this.  Then I laughed.  Then I became sad in seeing how much we can delude ourselves into thinking almost anything.  But what was even more apparent is how we use each other to springboard our ideas or visions of how we would like to be, instead of just being.  The trick is to do it with subtlety but mostly with others consent.  Friends are there to bounce off ideas if you do it with grace and approval.  What this guys did was just incredible… pure talk!

This guys needs a lot of awareness and loving in order to become himself again and regain a certain respect for himself.  And if this is a true recording, GUYS, get with it!  This is NOT what you want to do.  Maybe by hearing this, you can see why a lot of girls giggle when they see us coming over…

You Can Do It Alone, Or You Can Get Some Help

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You can go about anything you don’t know how to do the hard way or the easy way.  Eventually it is a question of how crucial it is to you and your level of awareness around the given topic.  However when it comes to reaching your goals faster, there are still no better ways to go about it than to look for a little outside, neutral help.

Who doesn’t want to reach their goals faster, with less stress?  OK, for those stubborn people out there, who wouldn’t want to reach their aspiration faster, efficiently and with brio?  A third party, neutral outside help gives you consistent support, can be used as a springboard for ideas, and offers innovative strategies and approaches to help you reach your goals.

Well at least that’s what happened to me when I found my first coach, and my second and my third, etc.  You get the picture.

Setting Better Goals

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Seeting good goals is crucial to bringing your plans to fruition.

Goals that are aligned with your true values make them easier to work toward and reach.  After all, that is why you do what you do.  It is so important to understand why you are doing something and what it will help you with.  Knowing this makes any task easier to handle.

Yet, setting he wrong goal will have disastrous consequences. Think of chasing the road prjects and plans until you realize it?  When we jump on goals, acting out of whims, advertising, or any other imposed agendas we not only forgo our own power to chose but also give up our right to find what we do best which in turn gives your best to society.   Wouldn’t it be great to have someone help people discover what they really want, what they are really good at using your own values, needs and vision as personal reference points?

Hum, there is a name for people like that… Oh yeah, coaches :)