Presenditial Cadidates Talks

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A few words on the presidential candidate speeches.

I watched Clinton and Obama talk on TV at the gym.  It was interesting to see the difference and the similarities between the two.  Something must have happened since last I watched them a month ago.  They are more civilized towards each other.  That is a good thing because the last thing we need to see are vicious and mud throwing president candidates in the current state of things.  We need maturity and for once, these two, and I think all three, have shown more than previous ones in the past.  I haven't seen McCain speak yet.

What it boils to however is that we love sports in this country.  We are raised to "pick a team" and cheer for it.  The problem is that we view politics in the same way.  Knowing the consequences, this is very dangerous.  It isn't about picking a team when it comes down to choosing our country leaders.  It is our  future and how we, as intelligent civilized people can put aside our silly selfish beliefs and work together to regain control of a situation out of order.

This is exactly what scares me about our candidates.  None of them have a team to present.  It is disturbing because we are not in high school voting for the Senior Queen and King anymore.  We are voting for a team of people who will lead our country.  We are surely mature and aware enough to understand that the world of politic is all about subtleties and strategic alliances.  No one does it alone.  The days of John Wayne are way long gone. 

So who is the team behind the candidates?  Who will be secretary of defense?  Vice-President?  Secretary of interior?  These are my fundemental questions that so far, no one has answered.  Yes, there are hints but I need more than hints before I make up my mind.  Until then, it is all talk.

It feels scary that people still vote according to what one person says when we know it takes a tight team to lead a country (or not).  It's sad to hear these candidates say all the things they know people will want to hear, general economy, healthcare and the war.  My real questions are what will you and your team do about it and how?  What can you show us now to convince us?  Who is in charge?  Certainly you don't think we are naive enough to think one person does it all? No, I'm sure you don't, right?

So instead of doing what every politician has done since the begnning of time, tell me who will be in charge of what and how will you all work together.  Before you cater to my dreams, let me know how you will work together to make it happen.  Give me the names of those you will pick to fill the important roles in your administration.  Like millions out there, I have seen through your speeches how words are cheap, actions are worth more.

Subtleties Of Coaching

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Coaching is one heck of a subtle profession.

We are not consultants.  We are not advisors.  We are not mentors.  We are not therapists.  We are coaches.  Somehow I wonder if the word coach incapsules everything a coach does and is.  Is there such a word for what we do?  I remember writing about this in the very beginning, maybe we need a word that really describes what a coach does.

There are two general types of coaches you will find out there, the purists and the rest.  The purists will ONLY ask questions and that's it.  They will never give their opinion, nor share their intuitions.  The others will share their opinions and intuition hits once in a while if the client wants to hear and if it is relevant.  Though I have a lot of admiration for purist coaches, I wonder about the effectiveness of the overall sessions.  How long does it take for a client to be fully empowered without direct feedback?  How long will it take them to embrace their uniqueness on their own?

Most other coaches find the incredible subtleties of coaching is when is the right time to give your insight, when do you share your intuition and when is it alright to refer to outside sources.  It is very subtle.  Have I said it was subtle yet?  It is!  You don't want to influence your client, yet you want to check in to see if something that came up could be of importance.  You need to present it in a neutral way and by asking if it is important to them at all.

All in all, I love it!  It's like dancing an intricate and fascinating tango.  It's genuine curiosity, care and interest in someone else's life.  It's one step to the right, three to the left, one forward and sometime two backwards.  It twirls and whirls and somehow you eventually get to the Holy Grail, the deeply rooted aspiration, that magical "Ah ha" moment.  After that, it's time to custom build a personal strategy on how to achieve those goals.

Ah the subtleties of coaching.  It makes me smile to think how obvious the value of true coaching will be in a few years.