A funny case was brought up in our of our studies, how a person meaning well turns to the outside world for solace when she could do some soul digging and then turn to others to lend a hand.

It happens often. It’s often harder to look within that we would rather go out there and “help people”. It is a good feeling but often lacks a depth of self understanding. Unfortunately, you cannot help anyone until you have helped yourself, to a certain point, at the very least. Often times we find people meaning well, who are there to help anyone on the spot but we see a certain lack in their eyes. Sometimes this lack is the very thing they set out to help others with. The worse part is that it is hard to accept help from people who are not whole.

It is especially so when you have a client who “wants to do good” and wants to help others. I hear this very often and the question that comes to mind is why? What motivates you to do so? Sometimes the answer is true, genuine and is the result of years of self-searching. Sometimes however it betrays anguish and a desire to run away from the within.

It always goes back to the same thing, clean your home first before you clean someone else’s. Do a little soul search first before you go out there and help others. After all, you won’t have as much experience as you would need to cope with what you be presented. This was part of a discussion we had that not everyone is or can be a coach.