Should, Could, Would, Weasel Words

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Funny how language reveals a lot about a person.

I was shocked to hear my wife-to-be then say: “I love (this person) to death.” Maybe it was a cultural thing but loving a friend to death is odd to me. Worse yet, how can you love someone to death? Shudder!

Lately, with a few clients and coach friends of mine, we have been working on being extra aware of weasel words. You know those words we use to either please others, such as should, could, would and of course, if I… or worse yet because we think we need to do something. It carries a lot of weight.

As a fun game, become aware of how many times you use those words. Then ask yourself, why did I chose to use the word; would, or should? And just for kicks, make it a day to observe without judgment. You’d be surprise how many times we think we need to do things we don’t really do.

How Do You Keep The Ball Going?

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Once you finally catch that groove and you are on a roll, how do you keep it?

How do you avoid the downfall of adversity? How do you roll with it and get up again? Though there are many techniques, I find the one that works best with me is to have a supportive environment. One other indispensable relationship I have come to rely on is the one with my coach. It is the surest way to have that constant weekly reminder and push towards what drives me.

My coach created a fun game for me, the rejection game. I have to go out and propose my services to as many people as I meet and talk to. The point is to get a flat no. The first time I went out and talked someone, I had a drunk girl who said yes. Go figure! This game builds up a tough skin. One person says no, it means it wasn’t meant or it wasn’t the right relationship. You move on to the next.

I feel in order to get the ball going it is a balance of sorts, have good friends, a strong family and someone to give you a gentle nudge once in a while. You might say you don’t have friends around or enough. That is something you can work on with a coach. You might say your family life leaves much to be desired. That is something you can work on with a life coach. And once those personal foundations are settled, tackle the walls and finally the roof that make up your life.

Frankly said, I don’t understand why we don’t have coaches at school to get students to explore their aspirations and pursue their passions. What a different world we would have, one filled with well integrated people working at the things that inspire them most. Surely, it will have to happen. In the meantime, here we are, coaches.

Where’s The Fun In It?

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Here is the understatement of the decade in our fast paced, produce, produce and produce life. Last time I checked, people produce more when they have fun and find passion in what they do.

A few of my business coaching clients have the same issue at hand. It just isn’t fun. How do you spark that fun again and strike that motivation at the same time?

One of the first question to ask yourself is what got you into this business in the first place? It could be luck, in which case the next question should be what made you stay? If it was something you always liked doing, sometimes just realizing this will get you to refocus on the essential, why you joined onboard this business.

One thing we all need in order to be more productive and efficient is to find meaning and have fun at it, or else it’s a drag. Funny how that word “fun” turns off so many businesses and eventually employees. Without that fun factor, people are like engines running without some cylinders. They drag their efficiency.

Ask yourself the right question. Ask yourself why you started that business, why you joined that team, what attracted you in the first place and see how you refocus or change your view so that you become aligned with the rest of the team. And even if you do realize after all that your time is done in a particular industry or a company, then congratulate yourself for being honest and move on to a more fun and fulfilling job.

Is Being Certified important?

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It depends on the person.

Most people don’t know much about coaching certifications out there. Most client don’t ask their coaches the credentials. As long as they strike a good relationship with a coach and she or he gets them to empower themselves again, the job is being done. Some companies ask, and that is normal.

The reason why I chose to get certified is twofold. First, I wanted a jump start. What I would normally have done in the past is learn as I go. As I am getting older and itching to start doing the bulk of the work, I wanted to by-pass that stage and get some formal education with my professional peers. What I found is that I am learning 30 years worth 1000 coaches or more who had contributed to te profession. It truly is a jump start.

Every month I feel a professional change. And my clients feed it back to me. Every class I take is another lego block of the final result of my practice. I can feel it.

The second reason is that with coaching becoming so popular, everyone and their ants is becoming one. It reminds me a little of the heydays of real estate. Sometimes, people will attach the word “coach” at the end of their title in order to ride on the trail of this boom. At this stage, we are still self-regulated. And the many coaches I have met give me no doubt they are true genuine people. However, as with any popular phase, there is bound to be excess. That’s when the profession will be regulated. Getting certified now is doing the inevitable. Sooner or later, we’ll have to get certified. Might as well do it now.

All in all, I do it for myself. I have learned a lot and worked with some of the top coaches in the U.S. It’s fun and I jump way ahead of the laborious process of learning as you go. It’s been fun and I look forward to more.

these are the codes I abide from the International Coaching Federation.

Modern School And Education Chaos

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Tutoring students has been an amazing experience. I get to experience what kids go through at school these days and their family lives. What I found is disturbing. They are not taught to be ready for life, instead they are taught trades with little emphasis on self-discovery.

It clicked yesterday as I was reading a February print of BusinessWeek with an article called: “Education: The Next Generation Of U.S. Workers Is Falling Behind”. Catchy title, it caught my attention. What I found confirmed what I have seen. Our education system in no way prepares kids for life. We all knew that and have experienced it first hand. What I found was that it stresses a push into sciences without developing first the founding blocks of education, the why we do it, the who I am and what do I want to do in life. That alone would make a generation of kids who would excel at their workplace because they would actually know what they wanted to do instead of being enticed into a particular industry segment.

It’s all obvious, school doesn’t teach you much about yourself and how to go into life. What it does is it teaches you arts and trades which you can then use to become a productive part of society. However, I wonder about the definition “productive part of society”. Is it just to have one go out into to the market to find a job and contribute by paying taxes and buying product? Surely, there must be more.

The article was chilling at best, downright frightening at worse. 66% of companies interviewed found 4 year college graduates to be adequate and 25% excellent, while 9% deficient. Two year colleges graduates scored higher in the adequate part with 77%, lower with excellent 11% and 12% deficient.

The next graph was the scary one pitting science students in better performing students in higher-income countries with poorer performing students in higher countries. Guess where we stand? In the latter while Korea ranks the highest, followed by France, Germany, Japan, Australia and other countries. In fact, we are trailing most other countries in other areas. In science, we are in the middle of the pack, i.e. our graduates are not top picks for companies. Guess that explains why companies higher foreigners.

Maybe instead of closing borders, protecting our own companies and spending billions on crisises by concentrating on non-issues, we need to redefine our priorities. We need to invest money into our ailing education system instead of draining into warfare which will be unsustainable if we do not have strong science graduates anyway. There will come a time when we cannot even have a strong country if engineers are better trained outside ours. It just seems self-defeating not banking on education to create a stronger tomorrow. It’s a dangerous loop. If we don’t invest in educating our children right by allowing them to understand who they are, which will make them know what they want to do, which follows they will excel at whatever they chose in life with the result being a strong system with knowledgeable and skilled people in the right places. Maybe it’s time to stop those who put on the brakes and steer our resources in other directions that are running us into a dead end street.

Two-decade Low For Homes In Bay Area

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According to DataQuick: “Bay Area home sales remain at two-decade low”

It will take time to stabilize the real estate market but I see a lot has happened these last three months alone. Prices have declined a lot already and new sellers are much more careful when pricing homes. It’s about time, what took you so long?

The opening line pretty much captures the mood of this market: “The waiting game between Bay Area buyers, sellers and lending institutions continued last month as sales dipped below 4,000 for the second month in a row,…”

“”The lending system has been in lockdown mode the last half year, … Sure there are price declines out there,… But it’s not realistic to think many sellers are going to drop a $600,000 or $700,000 asking price down to $550,000 just so a buyer can finance with a conforming loan.” What a good point but is it really unrealistic? What about people who have to move, or are relocated or what about death in the family and divorces? How much these situations have impacted real estate in the past.

This is the news I’ve been waiting for: “The median price paid for a Bay Area home was $548,000 last month, down 0.4 percent from $550,000 in January, and down 11.6 percent from $620,000 in February last year. Last month’s median was 17.6 percent lower than the peak median of $665,000 reached last June and July.” Even though we are talking about the median price which doesn’t reflect everything across the board, it still points to prices lowering, one way or another.

Meanwhile, real estate offices around town play a bloody game of wait and see. It’s survival of the fittest or survival of the ones who attract and keep the most agents. Right now, the only alternatives for any office to survive is to find enough agents to pony up enough desk fees to keep the offices open. Ah, wonderful california who forces agents to work with a broker. I see the pros and the cons.

So, Where Are You With Your New Year’s Resolutions?

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Catchy title but it should in no way make you feel guilty. If you haven’t pursued all 1000 resolutions you set out to keep, most likely they weren’t worth it. Let’s look at the ones that stick instead.

New Year is usually the time when after indulging in a feast of foods, we have the best resolutions. After all, resolutions are best thought of on a full aching stomach. As the days go by, we feel the strain of those impulsive choices. Weeks weed out the ones we have a harder time following and months eventually axe the ones we clearly cannot commit to. But it’s OK. Really, it alright. I’d rather stick to one resolution I can keep that try three and have a horrible time.

A good resolution is taken with a quiet mind and away from such destructive thoughts as guilt and remorse.

So which resolutions have you kept this year? Which ones did you make coming from an emotionally neutral you?

These Lawmakers, They Just Don’t Get It…

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Heard the latest news and here? California wants to tax your iTunes buying method.

The tunes that cost you .99 cents will now be $1.07. All of this because our lawmakers cannot seem to graps our state economy and curb the rampant deficit that plagues each new big wigs.

“The California Assembly, apparently facing an $8 billion deficit, has introduced a bill that would apply sales taxes to “media downloads,…”.

So how will they do it? “The Golden State currently only taxes “tangible” goods — those that can be “seen, weighed, measured, felt, or touched” — leaving digital purchases tax-free.” “New taxes require a 2/3rd vote of the Legislature, meaning some anti-tax Republicans would have to sign onto the proposal, but Calderon got creative. Instead of proposing a new tax, AB 1956 simply requires the Board of Equalization to amend the definition of “tangible personal property” to include “digital property.” That needs only a majority vote, meaning no Republicans necessary.” “…since new taxes require a 2/3 majority in California… to duck the majority rule, they’re … trying to have “digital property” count like normal, taxable property.” “That way, all they’re doing is changing a definition, not actually adding a new tax.” Some of you have seen the loophole, what about people buying outside of California? Who will know and who ever pays these taxes, right? With the latest from Google and the likes gathering IP address information for a year and a half, let’s be careful.

I just don’t understand the idea to tax a booming business model when economy is weak and needs boosting more than restricting. As with always, politicians’ answer to boosting tax revenues, even in soggy economic markets is to raise taxes.

Ever get the feeling: “Who puts these people there?” What degree do they have? What grasp on reality do they actually have? Is there a school for politicians and lawmaking? Who’s in charge? And we won der why people find clever ways to avoid paying. What will it take for lawmakers to truly boost our economy and not stifle it with taxes?

Giving Back To The Community

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I always felt it corny when people said they wanted to give back to the community, yet it resonates with the part of my life I am starting to live now.

Giving back to the community is the last thing on your mind when you are fully experiencing life and have no time for anything but to go out there and learn, learn, learn. That was how I felt. Something clicked last year. Maybe it was the lack of activities in real estate market these last few years, too much time to think, or most likely this profound dissatisfaction with my life. I worked on nothing else than to evolve. There comes a time when you want others to have an easier time navigating through the labyrinth of life than you did. There comes a time when you want to leave something behind that can help anyone maneuver life. And that’s how I feel right now.

When you don’t have kids, thoughts like these preoccupy your restless mind. I feel I have taken much from my life. People have been there at the right time and given freely contributing to my development. I feel it is time to give back, sort of speak. I thought I would write a book. But that wasn’t satisfying as much as I wanted. I will write that book one day it’s a lower priority. I needed something where I could impact people from a neutral point, without influencing them through my own judgement. I wanted to leave a smoother quack behind me. I didn’t want to add to the chaos that life is. I needed something with human mind insight and intuition, and also, something that would reward me spiritually, intellectually and of course, financially.

Then I went to see Donna, and that’s when everything clicked into place. I wanted to do what she did. As corny as it sounded, I wanted to be there for others. After all, I have learned a lot and all this knowledge could help someone, anyone. It was also a spiritual decision. In order to go forward, helping your surrounding makes a huge difference. I now feel I can move forward and still contribute. It doesn’t have to be all take and no give. I am finding a superb balance I never felt before. I can give and take.

All of this used to sound so silly when I heard from the mouth of others but living through it makes perfect sense. I feel as if my life is one project building working towards the masterpiece. A little

Alfa Romeo Giulia SS #00001

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It’s not every day you get to witness the number one chassis of a production line and when I saw chassis #00001 of Alfa Romeo’s Giulia SS, I clicked my camera with complete abandonment.

Of all 50′s cars, I feel the Giulia SS is Bertone’s most beautiful work. It is elegant, beautiful, streamlined to perfection and a testament to the Italian superb flair for the dramatic with a practical use. This car was penned without using an air tunnel. I didn’t take a side picture of this superb car but go Veloce Today and look halfway through the picture to see a gray version. You can see how sleek the car is.

Here is a view of chassis #00001′s back next to a green SS sister. It’s beautiful. P1010185

Here is the chassis number stamp. P1010182

Notice the different nose from the rest of the series? P1010186

The front fenders scoop much lower and the nose lacks that beautiful Alfa grill.

It was a treat to see this car not only for the fact that it is number 1 but it was unrestored and unmolested. It’s beautiful to see such a car in its original state. A testament that Alfa are indeed strong and valuable cars. Now gotta go and play the lottery.

p.s. SS stands for Sprint Special.