This coaching trend is really growing on me. I like it a lot.

We have been discussing a few things that, I feel, can only help in the personal development of anyone wanting to improve their life and find out what they should be doing, would like to do or just get a better idea of where to go.

One thing I notice everyone struggling with, me included is one’s inner value. How do you become aware of it without feeling pompous? I believe this effects particularly women. Women struggle a lot in order to achieve a successful business life and try to maintain what is expected of them to still be feminine and take care of the kids, if any, etc. The 55 to 70 generation is still struggling with saying: “No”. I thought the 30 to 40 generation would have an easier time and depending on family up growing and what part of society they were born into, some still struggle.

Obviously, these are wide and huge generalizations. I meet plenty of people from these generations that understand who they are and their place in life. Neither following what is expected of them or rebelling against society. Some have found the right balance by saying no at the right time for the right circumstances.

Here is a little article I found on figuring out one’s inner value. I forgot where I got it from but this can help anyone.

One thing for sure is your inner value is a constant. It doesn’t change. It is who you are and determines what you create in life. Not the other way around. What you create should not be confused with your inner value.

“Your Innate Value Worth

Though much of who and what we are changes as we journey through life, our inherent worth remains constant. While the term self-worth is often used interchangeably with self-esteem, the two qualities are inherently different. Self-esteem is the measure of how you feel about yourself at a given moment in time. Your worth, however, is not a product of your intelligence, your talent, your looks, your good works, or how much you have accomplished. Rather it is immeasurable and unchanging manifestation of your eternal and infinite oneness with the universe. It represents the cornerstone of the dual foundations of optimism and self-belief. Your worth cannot be taken from you or damaged by life’s rigors, yet it can easily be forgotten or even actively ignored. By regularly acknowledging your self-worth, you can ensure that you never forget what an important, beloved, and special part of the universe you are.

You are born worthy-your worth is intertwined with your very being. Your concept of your own self-worth is thus reinforced by your actions. Each time you endeavor to appreciate yourself, treat yourself kindly, define your personal boundaries, be proactive in seeing that your needs are met, and broaden your horizons, you express your recognition of your innate value. During those periods when you have lost sight of your worth, you will likely feel mired in depression, insecurity, and a lack of confidence. You’ll pursue a counterfeit worth based on judgment rather than the beauty that resides within. When you feel worthy, however, you will accept yourself without hesitation. It is your worth as an individual who is simultaneously interconnected with all living beings that allows you to be happy, confident, and motivated. Because your conception of your worth is not based on the fulfillment of expectations, you’ll see your mistakes and failures as just another part of life’s jo! urney.

Human beings are very much like drops of water in an endless ocean. Our worth comes from our role as distinct individuals as well as our role as an integral part of something larger than ourselves. Simply awakening to this concept can help you rediscover the copious and awe-inspiring worth within each and every one of us.”